Healing Conversations

We were honored to use our film as a conversation tool for our tour of this film to conferences and museums.

Use this guide to start conversations in your own communities. It is also a useful tool after watching our film. For where to watch the film CLICK HERE


First, choose a person or people in your life with whom you know will like to share a reflective discussion on the topic.
*Please be sensitive when asking a black person in your life about joining your conversations during times when incidences of brutality against black and brown people are top stories in the media. It is likely an emotional time for them. We recommend asking your black associate or friend to join your discussions during less volatile times.

Second, we appreciate that you are making the choice to have this discussion now and with people you care about. But remember, to be awaken to the injustices you now have the power to decide your role- we hope that this isn't your only time

Third, remember these conversations may be tough and for them to be productive, you'll have to be vulnerable and avoid getting defensive. Allow yourself time to work through your thoughts and emotions. You may discover that you have believed a certain way for a long time, and evolving to a new way of thinking can be an emotional rollercoaster. But, it's worth it. So be patient and kind to one another.

Consider the following statements and select the one that best
describes how you feel.
I would rather not talk about race/racism.
I am very uncomfortable talking about race/racism.
I am usually uncomfortable talking about race/racism.
I am sometimes uncomfortable talking about race/racism.
I am usually comfortable talking about race/racism.
I am very comfortable talking about race/racism.

Then use a sentence-stem activity to self-reflect.
The hard part of talking about race/racism is …
The beneficial part of talking about race/racism is … 


• What’s your earliest memory of becoming aware that some people looked
different from you? • What’s your earliest memory of becoming aware of racism?
• What’s your earliest memory of becoming aware of your own white identity?
• What’s one way you think your life would have been different had you been
born another race?
• What privileges do you have that others do not?
• What privileges do you NOT have that others do?
• What’s one privilege you never want to give up?
• Talk about a time when someone else said or did something racist and you
interrupted it.
• Talk about a time when someone else did or said something racist and you
didn’t speak up and why.
• Describe a situation in which you kept your distance from a person/people of
color because you feared being disliked or rejected?
• How do you typically respond when someone is angry at you?
• What do you think of when you hear the term white supremacy?
• How does it make you feel when a person of color calls something you did or
said racist?

• Do you believe in the 'race card'? What does that mean?

• Have you ever accused someone of "pulling the race card"? When? Why?

• What’s one embarrassing mistake you hope never to make with a person of
another race?

•  What are microagressions?

• What is a microagression you have done that you have realized is offensive?
• What is one way you think you could connect with white people who have 
differing views about race?
• Is there anything, no matter how small, that you are willing to commit do 
doing to end racism that you are not already doing?
• What were your thoughts and feelings when you watched the murder of George Floyd?
• Do you understand why people are calling for the arrest of the officers who killed Breonna Taylor?
• What were your thoughts and feelings when you watched the demonstrations?
• What is the hardest thing for you to understand about the current racial tension in the United States?
• What’s one thing you have learned about yourself in this circle?